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HOW TO GET PREGNANT QUICKLY!
If you want to increase your odds of getting pregnant sooner rather than later, the following tips from Ann Douglas -- author of The Mother of All Pregnancy Books (U.S. edition and Canadian edition), The Mother of All Pregnancy Organizers and The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby (first edition and the brand new second edition) -- will help you to maximize your chances of conceiving quickly and ending up with a healthy baby. (Note: If you find this list of tips helpful, you may want to read some of Ann's fertility articles (she's a columnist for Conceive Magazine), as well as The Mother of All Lenses: Pregnancy and Parenting over at Squidoo.)
Try to keep sex fun when you're trying to conceive. Use rooms other than the bedroom or schedule your babymaking rendezvous for an odd time of day. The rationale? You won't be able to keep up the babymaking pace for very long if sex starts feeling like a chore.
Start taking folic acid now. You reduce your chances of giving birth to a baby with a neural tube defect (for example, anencephaly or spina bifida) by 50% to 70% if you start taking at least 0.4 mg of folic acid each day two to three months before you start trying to conceive.
Don't hop up and run to the bathroom right after you make love. Lying down for at least a few minutes (some fertility experts say five minutes) after intercourse increases the odds that the sperm will be able to keep their date with the awaiting egg and that you'll win at baby roulette.
Make love often during your fertile period (the five days leading up to ovulation). If you've got the stamina to make love at least every 48 hours, you will ensure that there's a fresh shipment of sperm waiting in the fallopian tube at any given time. Of course, you can get too much of a good thing if your partner has a low sperm count, so if you're aware of a pre-existing fertility problem, you'll want to talk this issue over with your fertility specialist.
Keep in mind that babymaking is a numbers game. Even if you do everything "right," you still have only a 25% to 30% chance of conceiving in any given cycle. (See The Mother of All Pregnancy Books (U.S. edition and Canadian edition), The Mother of All Pregnancy Organizers and The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby (first edition and the brand new second edition for more on how factors like age and your previous reproductive history affect your odds of conceiving sooner rather than later.
Here's a bit of sex-related trivia, just in case you and your partner are looking for a little inspiration. There are over 114 million sex acts performed around the world.
Are you a coffee drinker? Time to give it up or switch to decaf! Caffeine is thought to restrict the growth of a developing baby by constricting blood vessels and reducing blood flow to the uterus. What's more, a few studies have indicated that excessive consumption of caffeine (that is, more than three cups of drip coffee per day) may contribute to fertility problems. The jury is still out on this last point, however.
Are you or your partner regularly exposed to hazardous substances in the workplace? You may need to consider a job change or job modification before you start your family. Certain substances can affect both the quality of sperm and the development of the embryo.
Have you had your preconception checkup yet? Set up an appointment with your doctor to review your medical history and to talk about your plans to start trying to conceive. (Note: You can find a detailed discussion of preconception health issues in The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby (second edition) and The Mother of All Pregnancy Books (U.S. edition and Canadian edition).
Are you currently taking any prescription or over-the-counter drugs? Be sure to ask your doctor if it's safe for you to continue taking them once you start trying to conceive.
If you aren't already doing so, start keeping a menstrual calendar. Note the date when your period starts, the number of days it lasts, and anything else your doctor might want to know about. This information could prove helpful if you experience problems in conceiving. It can also prove invaluable in pinpointing the date of conception -- and consequently your due date.
Try to book the last appointment of the day for your preconception checkup. That's when your doctor or midwife is most likely to be able to take the time to answer your questions and address your concerns without feeling rushed to go on to the next patient.
Make your vaginal environment as sperm-friendly as possible. Avoid vaginal sprays and scented tampons (which can cause a pH imbalance in your vagina); artificial lubricants, vegetable oils, and glycerin (because they can kill off sperm); saliva (because saliva can also kill sperm); and douching (because it alters the normal acidity of the vagina; can cause vaginal infections and/or pelvic inflammatory disease; and may wash away the cervical mucus that is needed to transport the sperm).
If you're monitoring your cervical mucus in an attempt to predict your most fertile days, do your checks before you shower, bathe, or swim. These activities can all affect the quantity and quality of your cervical mucus.
Are you diabetic? It's important to get your blood sugar levels under control before you conceive. Studies have shown that women with poorly controlled insulin-dependent diabetes are four to six times more likely to give birth to babies with birth defects than non-diabetic women.
Does your partner like to spend hours on the exercise bike at the gym? Tell him to hop on the treadmill instead. A study at the University of California School of Medicine revealed that men who cycle more than 100 km per week put their fertility at risk. The repeated banging of the groin against the bicycle seat can damage critical arteries and nerves.
You can have too much of a good thing -- at least when it comes to exercise. Excessive amounts of exercise can lead to such fertility problems as irregular periods, anovulatory cycles (cycles in which ovulation does not occur), and luteal phase deficiencies (a problem that occurs when the second half of your cycle isn't long enough to allow for the proper implantation of the fertilized egg). The moral of the story? Stay active, but don't overdo it.
Don't go on a crash diet if you're hoping to try for that Y2K baby. Starvation diets, purging, bingeing, and yo-yo dieting affect ovulation and consequently your fertility. (Note: You can find some other nutrition-related fertility links at our sister site, ParentingLibrary.com.)
Unhappy with your health insurance company? The time to switch companies is now. Don't get stuck with sub-standard coverage after you win at baby roulette!
Don't make sex into a chore. Consider these words of wisdom from one of the parents interviewed in The Unofficial Guide to Having a Baby:"Do not have sex every day. If you're trying to maximize your chances of conceiving, it's better to go every other day around the time you are ovulating. You are also more fresh, and therefore can put your heart into making sex as pleasurable and romantic as possible."
Don't hop out of bed right after you finish making love. While you don't have to stand on your head to give the sperm a chance to make their way through the cervix--they are, after all, programmed to know the way!--you don't want to put gravity to work against them.
Worried that you're less likely to be able to conceive because you've only got one functioning ovary? Here are some encouraging words. Ovulation is a random event each month, with both ovaries vying for the honor on a first-come, first-served basis. If you only have one ovary, it wins the draw by default.
Make sure that you've been properly screened for STDs. More than one million North American women are affected by pelvic inflammatory disease each year. The number-one cause is an untreated sexually transmitted disease.
Wondering if you should pull out the thermometer and the temperature chart? Some couples like to try to predict their fertile days by watching for the temperature shift that typically accompanies ovulation; others prefer to let nature take its course. If you're having intercourse two to three times per week anyway, you're already doing everything possible to try to conceive, so taking your temperature could be a bit of overkill. If, on the other hand, you find it reassuring to know that you're "doing everything right," then put that thermometer to good use.
If you decide to take your basal body temperature (BBT) to track your most fertile days, pick up a digital thermometer rather than relying on the old-style mercury thermometer. It's easier to read, it requires no shaking (which can cause your body temp to go up for no good reason), and it even beeps to remind you to record your reading if you accidentally go back to sleep. If you prefer a more high-tech approach and your budget can swing it, you may want to look into fertility monitoring software or a fertility computer.
Don't eat, drink, or get out of bed before you take your temperature. Each of these activities can affect the accuracy of your reading.
If your partner's sperm count is low or marginal, you may be advised to have intercourse every other day to allow his sperm count to build up. Your doctor may even recommend that your partner refrain from ejaculating during the days leading up to your most fertile period.
Here's a clear case of use it or lose it. Studies have shown that abstaining from sex for more than seven days can decrease the male partner's fertility. Any gain in sperm counts from lack of use is more than offset by the increased number of aged sperm cells with lower fertilization potential.
THE TRICK TO GETTING PREGNANT
So you've decided that it's time to start a family. You're thinking about baby names and trying to decide how many you want in your brood. You'll just quit the birth control and be pregnant in no time right? Wrong. It's a common misconception (no pun intended) among couples that as soon as the contraceptives are in the garbage, the second line will show up on that home pregnancy test. If only it were so easy. What you must remember is that getting pregnant is a complex biological process and there are no guarantees in the world of conception.
The first mistake that couples make is assuming that a woman can get pregnant anytime. In reality, the conception window is very narrow - only about 5 days in any given menstrual cycle. Sperm, as a general rule, is said to be able to live up to five days in the vaginal canal, though three days is a more realistic time frame. The female portion, the ovum (or egg) only lives 24-48 hours. With these numbers, a woman is most fertile in the three days leading up to ovulation, the day of ovulation, and the day after ovulation.
The question that poses is obvious: When does a woman ovulate? If you'd like to subscribe to the old school, they'll tell you that every woman ovulates on day fourteen of her menstrual cycle. They're wrong, too. Every woman is different, so why should every menstrual cycle be the same? Some say that the best way to counter that is to just count back fourteen days from the day their next period is expected. Does this have to be so confusing? Not at all. If you'd like to have a good basic idea of when you ovulate, you should get a calendar. On that calendar, mark the date of your next expected period. Next, count backward from that date seventeen days. That will give you the date roughly three days before ovulation. Start having intercourse on that date and continue every other day until twelve days before your expected period. That should give you a reasonable chance at conceiving
HOW TO INCREASE YOUR CHANCES
Pregnancy is a matter of chance. Conception does not always happen even if the egg and sperm are in the right place at the right time. The length of time that it takes couples to conceive varies considerably. Still trying to conceive after a year doesn’t necessarily mean that anything is wrong.
The chance of getting pregnant during a woman’s cycle vary according to a wide range of factors:
For a woman aged 20 to 25, the chances of conceiving are around 25 percent for each cycle (in other words, a one in four chance).
For a woman aged 30 to 35, the chances of conceiving are around 15 percent per cycle; thereafter, the likelihood of conception continues to decline with increasing age.
A couple in their early 20’s will take an average of five monthly cycles to conceive.
Women in their early 30’s will get pregnant, on average, after nine monthly cycles.
One in ten couples will take more than a year to conceive.
One of the secret tips on getting pregnant really involves the woman’s monthly cycle…this should really not come as a surprise, but lots of couples have probably forgotten lots of their basic biology. A woman ovulates once a month, and the ovum or egg last for approximately 12 hours. During this 12-hour period, the egg has to be fertilized or it dries up and is no longer viable. Obviously, then, having unprotected sex any other time of the month could not possible result in conception. It is only when you make love during the “twelve-hour window” that a couple can conceive – it’s really quite miraculous that a woman can even get pregnant at all! When a couple is trying to conceive, the trick is to catch the egg around day 14 of the woman’s monthly cycle. To add to the difficulty, every woman’s cycle is different. The 28-day cycle is the average, but normal cycles can vary from 23 days to 35 days.
Most people have heard about the Basal Body Temperature. “Basal” means “the temperature of the body at rest.” Most women experience a slight jump in body temperature just after ovulation. Women need to measure their body temperature every morning, before arising. A drawback is that the record must be meticulously kept. Remember, a woman who wants to conceive cannot get out of bed until she takes her temperature each day. This means before using the bathroom, having a cup of tea, or any other activity. Ideally, a woman who wants to conceive should have had sex on the days just before her temperature began to rise. So you can see that keeping temperature charts can only give you a general picture of when your most fertile time might be. It can let you know whether or not you are having intercourse close to ovulation.
Women need to be observant of any changes in their bodies. One important change is that the cervical mucus is thinner and clearer during the most fertile period. In the early part of a woman’s cycle, the mucus produced by the cervix is thick and sticky; it acts as a block to the cervical opening. The thinner mucus allows for easier movement of the sperm cells in their quest for the egg. Also, the thinner mucus that signals a woman’s most fertile period resembles the white of an egg – you’ll know when you observe it. If a woman’s mucus seems to her to be too thick at the time of ovulation, some health providers recommend taking Robitussin to help thin the mucus. Another indication of ovulation is slight pain when the egg is released from the follicle inside the ovary. This is sometimes accompanied by spotting or very light bleeding.
Techniques On Trying To Get Pregnant...Start With The Basics
Seems like everyone has their own techniques on trying to get pregnant nowadays. These always remind me of old wives tales because, like opinions, everyone has at least one that they are convinced has mass potential. After sifting through a ton of opinions on the net that are sure to help a woman get pregnant fast how can you be sure of what works? Many of these techniques seem to repeat themselves, but since when does popularity equal effectiveness?
The only way to tell if a random technique used to get pregnant is really worthwhile is to examine the poster’s references and origins. Most doctors and professionals in the medical field have more experience with pregnancy cases and than people that picked various ideas off of the street. There has also been a lot of research conducted on pregnancy that only the right people would have access to, so it is important to look at the source before listening to whatever they have to say. I have searched through much of the “supposed facts” on various techniques on trying to get pregnant quickly so I have amassed sufficient resources that have helped me get pregnant in the past and have helped many of my friends that are trying to conceive.
So what works? Well, I can tell you right away that you can rule out sex positions almost entirely. While you’ll hear everywhere that sexual positions have the potential to make a huge difference, I have come to conclude, in my personal life as well as scientifically, that this “supposed fact” is simply not true. Most men’s little swimmers can swim up to 3 full days and can live up to 7 days in the woman’s body, so with such upstanding statistics, contorting your body to minimize the distance sperm have to travel is of little significance.
Besides knowing your ovulation cycle inside and out, a woman’s diet and exposure to stress have the most significance. Folic acid is of increasingly strong importance as it helps produce healthy red blood cells necessary for a successful conception and pregnancy. Folic acid is also extremely helpful during pregnancy as it helps to avoid birth defects such as spina bifida, miscarriage, and it helps pregnant women to forego fatigue and weakness. Don’t forget to avoid caffeine, alcohol, nicotine-containing products such as cigarettes while eating a well-balanced diet packed full of citrus fruits, leafy vegetables, and calcium-rich foods such as cheeses and yogurts.
The other significant factor when dealing with various techniques on trying to get pregnant is the impact of stress on our bodies. Most of us completely disregard the fact that stress has a huge impact on the way we function mentally but this is even more apparent when we consider our bodily functions during conception and pregnancy. Stress reacts very negatively with your body and shuts the door for conception so try to avoid stress at all costs. If stress avoidance is absolutely impossible then try yoga, working out at the gym, or even a Pilate's class to relieve pent-up stress.
Trying To Get Pregnant Quickly? Approach Conception In a New Way & Watch The Results...
Have you ever stopped to think why when we think of trying to get pregnant quickly we almost always refer to our bodies and completely forget that there is another person involved in the pregnancy party?? Sure taking care of your body and knowing exactly when you ovulate can be a tremendous help, but we must also consider that special man in our life that just may have something to bring to the table as well.
First of, let’s make sure that he wears boxers and not briefs. If your man is anything like mine, he has no idea of the exact location of the washer and dryer, so we have control of what he wears – more or less. Wearing boxers can be of great importance because they don’t constrict the testicles’ blood flow and positioning. Testicle positioning is important because they are more sensitive than most of us during our special time of the month when aunt flow pays a visit. Funny how our men always want to seem so tough and indestructible (unless they’re sick and are acting like 2 year old children), but when it comes to the parts that physically make a man a man their sensitivity levels fly through the roof. If the testes are held too close to the body they absorb more body heat and have the potential to pose negative effects on sperm production. Acting like two racing freight trains they’ll still produce sperm, but the quality will diminish significantly. Sperm created in an atmosphere that is warmer than normal will have problems with motility (movement) and sperm morphology (size and shape) and hence will lead to problems with successful conception.
Another popular topic plastered all over the Internet is the importance of sexual positions when trying to get pregnant quickly. I have found several studies that have disproved the importance of or even a presence of sexual positions having a great impact on easing conception. The idea is that certain sex positions bring the penis further into the cervix and at the same time bring the cervix closer within nearer reach of the little man swimmers. Studies have also shown that sperm can swim up to 3 days and survive inside a woman’s body for up to 7 days. In most occasions, the little triathlons don’t need guiding or extra help from body position to swim far enough to achieve their only goal in life. Conclusion: yes, positions during sex may help conception, but they are one of the least important factors when getting pregnant so just stop worrying about the best way to “do it” and just “do it” in the position that makes you both the happiest.
Another note on sexual do’s and dont's – stay away from oral and anal sex when trying to conceive. Both ends of the human anatomy carry bacteria that have a tendency to carry over to the vaginal walls during intercourse and kill the sperm as they swim out of the penis. Avoiding these two activities during intercourse is more important than choosing the best sex position and go a long way to helping you get pregnant quickly.
Some Neat Tips On Getting Pregnant Which You Probably Never Knew About...
Ever considered the effects of exercise or our body’s ability to conceive before trying to get pregnant? Most of us have completely dismissed the notion that exercise, whether it be lack of or too much, can have serious effects on our bodies going through the processes that lead to conception. It is hard to gauge how much exercise in too much as most of us consider going to the gym a perfectly healthy thing. While this may all be very true, when it comes time to conceive, the goal for getting your body into shape changes drastically. Our bodies are designed to specifically carry children through the entire 9-month term, but when we try to erode away the fat and tone our muscles to fit in to today’s supermodel figures, we lose the ability to conceive children. The last thing you want to do is to stop exercising altogether, instead simply tone down your routine and avoid muscle-building exercises.
Perhaps few other tips on getting pregnant can be as important as knowing not douche after intercourse. We all feel the need to “clean up” after intercourse, but douching our girl parts afterwards can lead reduce our chances of conceiving as well as aggravating any vaginal infections. Instead, let nature take its course and elevate your hips high enough in the air to where the semen can ooze into your vagina closer to the cervix. You will have less mess to clean up and your have also greatly increased your chances of getting pregnant. Try using a pillow or two to lay your hips on for about 20 minutes.
Another important tip on getting pregnant that is rarely realized is the importance of the female orgasm. Many of us have grown to accept that only the male orgasm is important for conception, and the female orgasm lacks importance. Well, I’m here to tell you and your man that putting a smile on both of your faces at about the same time can seriously help to lead to a successful pregnancy. You see, when a woman experiences an orgasm it helps to draw the semen closer to the cervix, thereby, greatly increasing a couple’s chances to get pregnant.
While you’re concentrating on your body and what you can do to help conceive, don’t forget that your man has a size able role to play in this whole pregnancy thing. Make sure that he wears boxers or loose-fitting underwear to help keep his testes away from too much body heat. Excess heat in the testes causes for problematic sperm production that may not be able to swim properly or have mutated DNA information. On this note, cut out hot tubs and hot showers as these can also cause problematic sperm production with the same principle in mind.
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